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The Grace of My First Rosary

Author: Beth Zanotelli, Diocese of Palm Beach Coordinator of Family Life

Do you remember the first time you prayed the Rosary? My first Rosary wasn’t until my 30’s. It’s hard to believe that a cradle Catholic who is the product of a lifetime of Catholic School does not remember praying the Rosary. There are many of us out there, perhaps we could form a club, the “Forgotten children of the 70’s and 80’s”. Well the good news is that there is still hope for this group. Because finding the Rosary, however we find it, brings a rich devotion that binds us to the life of Christ and teaches us how to imitate Mary on our journey.

Here is how it started… I was dropping my daughter off at school, and a few of the moms asked if I could join them for “Parents in Prayer”. I had no prepared excuse and nowhere else to be, how lovely to go into my daughter’s school and pray with some of the parents for our school and our children. As I entered the room, they were all arranged in a circle…holding rosaries! It is the truth, I panicked…I knew how to pray, and I love Jesus, but the Rosary…I was intimidated. How hard could it be, an Our Father and ten Hail Mary’s, right? I will never forget how loving the parents in the circle were, they did not judge me, they met me right where I was and gently taught me how to pray the Rosary. That circle of parents changed my life in so many ways.

We are all on a journey, and some of us find it easy to stay on the path God has set for us, some of us wander off the path, some are on a slow journey savoring each moment, some on a faster journey, maybe missing things along the way. What is important is that we are each open to opportunities to meet Jesus in different ways along that path. If I had let intimidation keep me from learning this devotion, I would have missed an opportunity for my life journey to be forever changed. The word “Rosary” means “Crown of Roses”. Each prayer is like giving Jesus and Mary heavenly flowers. When we pray, we receive graces for our life, for a peaceful death, and for glory in eternity. The mysteries of the Rosary help us to meditate on the Gospels, the events of Jesus’ life. We can use our prayers to help others by praying for them and for their intentions. Take the time to learn this devotion or better yet, learn it with someone else. I can only imagine the graces we receive when we teach someone else to pray this beautiful prayer. When we teach others to meditate on Jesus’ life, we are leading them to an encounter…an encounter with Christ!

Here is a link to the Diocese of Palm Beach Family Rosary, join them in prayer: https://vimeo.com/463441019

The Glorious Mysteries of the Rosary (prayed on Sundays and Wednesdays)

The Resurrection of our Lord
Jesus Ascends into Heaven
The Descent of the Holy Spirit – Pentecost
Mary is Assumed into Heaven
Mary is Crowned Queen of Heaven and Earth

The Joyful Mysteries of the Rosary (prayed on Mondays and Saturdays)

The Annunciation
The Visitation
The Nativity
The Presentation of Jesus
The Finding of the Child Jesus in the Temple

The Sorrowful Mysteries of the Rosary (prayed on Tuesdays and Fridays)

Jesus’ Agony in the Garden
Jesus is Scourged at the Pillar
Jesus is Crowned with Thorns
Jesus Carries the Cross
The Crucifixion

The Luminous Mysteries (prayed on Thursdays)

The Baptism of Jesus in the Jordan
The Wedding at Cana
The Proclamation of the Kingdom
The Transfiguration
The Institution of the Eucharist

A Yoked Marriage!

Author: Beth Zanotelli, *Diocese of Palm Beach Coordinator of Family Life*

In Matthew 11:28-30 Jesus says, “Come to me, all you who labor and are burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart; and you will find rest for yourselves. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” The word “yoke”, used many times in scripture, is a wooden beam that is fitted around oxen necks to equip and empower them to carry loads and do the work they need to do on their farm. There are two holes or spaces for each ox to put its neck and somewhere in the middle is a bar or rope for the farmer who oversees directing them to accomplish their task. Keep this image in mind as you read on…

We are not called to be perfect; we are called to be holy. How do we pass this message to our families? What does holiness look like?

The first thing to reflect on when asking these questions is how do you as husband and wife, live your faith together? The Gospel of Matthew is telling us that we are to be “yoked” with the Father. In marriage, we have the image of the husband and wife being yoked together with God as the couple’s guide. That is, the couple helps each other, and works together with the guidance of the Father. A spouse is never to manipulate or control, rather, a spouse is to be as a gift to the other. With the yoke, God gives them the graces to persevere. Together they are to be a gift to the Lord asking, how can I be loved by you, Lord? God is loving us by directing us away from harm and giving us order and especially, letting us rest. Like the relationship of the oxen and the farmer, when a man and a woman are married, they invite God into their relationship to guide them. If God is not in their relationship it can unravel into conflict and defiance. On the contrary, with Him, it can be beautiful, calm, loving, peaceful, and accepting. This is an image of marriage we need to pass on to our children, to model this love just as God has modeled for us. In our Catholic faith, marriage is a Sacramental union of a man, a woman, and God. Marriage is the foundation of the family, the domestic church.

God uses His Word like a yoke to guide us. In Ephesians 6:4, God provides us with parenting instructions: “Fathers (parents), do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up with the training and instruction of the Lord.” It is our job as parents to present knowledge, opportunities, and encounters so that our children can see the beauty that comes from life with Christ. Your children are not yoked in your marriage with you, but they are watching to see how you follow Him. Finally, but perhaps the most important advice comes from Ephesians 6:18 – “With all prayer and supplication, pray at every opportunity in the Spirit.” Take time to pray with your spouse and especially with your family, in the morning offer your day to God, at meals pray a blessing over your food and your family, when you drop them off at school (virtual or in person) pray for a good day, at bedtime a prayer of thanksgiving for the trials and blessings of the day. Consider praying a rosary, once a week as a family. Look to God with awe and wonder; you may be burdened today, but taking God’s yoke, He will give you rest.

What does the Church and Scripture have to say?

Matthew 11:28-30 – Come to me, all you who labor and are burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart; and you will find rest for yourselves. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

Ephesians 6:4 – Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up with the training and instruction of the Lord.

Ephesians 6:18 – With all prayer and supplication, pray at every opportunity in the Spirit.

Use Your Words

Author: Beth Zanotelli, Diocese of Palm Beach Coordinator of Family Life

It seems so simple…speak with kindness to one another. Say “please”, “thank you” and “I’m sorry”. A few years ago, Pope Francis reminded families, of the importance of these words. He said:

The expressions: ‘may I’ (please)?, ‘thank you’, and ‘pardon me’ (I’m sorry). Indeed, these expressions open up the way to living well in your family, to living in peace. They are simple expressions, but not so simple to put into practice! They hold much power: the power to keep home life intact even when tested with a thousand problems. But if they are absent, little holes can start to crack open and the whole thing may even collapse.
Pope Francis, May 13, 2015 General Audience

When he spoke these simple yet profound words, he could not have foreseen the impact they could have in the year 2020. We are being tested with thousands of problems this year. How is your family doing? Is it time for a check-up? If those words are absent in your family, as Pope Francis said, “little holes can start to crack open….”

Being together with family is such a blessing. It gives us time to talk and teach our children to use their words. This is such an easy, but important life skill. We use words to form relationships; words teach us how to empathize; words help us discover similarities with each other and differences from each other. A conversation with someone can provide insight to another’s feelings and who they are as a person. Verbal communication with another person builds community and teaches proper behavior. It is improper behavior to have outbursts and fits when we want something, or we don’t like the way a situation is going. It is proper behavior to talk about what is or what is not working in a situation.

All too often, we can forget to have conversations to build and strengthen relationships with those we love the most, especially after spending so much time together in lockdown! We strengthen and build relationships by saying “please” when making a request. Part of this communication is receiving complements by responding “thank you”, and by saying “I’m sorry” to those we offend. Remember, we all make mistakes, even parents. In turn, we need to forgive someone who is sorry with the words “I forgive you”. Most important, we should listen and hear the words of others when they speak, then, we are modeling virtuous behavior. In fact, we are evangelizing to others our Catholic faith.

The next time you are tempted to lose it, try those three golden phrases from Pope Francis: “please”, “thank you”, “I’m sorry”.

Proverbs 15:4 A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.

Colossians 3: 12-14 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another, if one has a grievance against another; as the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do.

2 Peter 1: 5-7 Make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, virtue with knowledge, knowledge with self-control, self-control with endurance, endurance with devotion, devotion with mutual affection, mutual affection with love.

See yourself as God sees you…

Life is a crazy, wonderful journey and so often we wish we would have known then, what we know now. On your journey do you ever take time to reflect on what your parents taught you? Right from the start, it is so important for everyone and especially for our children to know how special we all are in God’s eyes. I can remember my father telling me that God made me so special. AS IS! I didn’t have to do anything extra to gain His love, I already had it. God loves me just the way I am! As I grew older, my father also taught me to reach for the stars in everything I wanted to accomplish. (He added if you fall a little short, it’s ok because you were aiming really high) Give your kids this opportunity. Do you tell them how special they are? Not because they are doing the things you want them to do and achieving the things the world wants them to achieve, rather because God made them in His image and likeness…and He made them out of love, for love!!

As we begin this Joy of the Family blog, take a moment to look in the mirror. Look at yourself the same way God sees you and smile because He is smiling. He made you just the way you are, and He loves you just the way you are. Take time and reflect. Do you know how much God loves you? You are His beloved! You are His beloved Son or beloved Daughter! Go and tell your family, especially your children, how special they are. They don’t have to do a thing for Jesus to love them, He loves them just the way they are. We are called to share this Good News with everyone we meet, so we can be faithful disciples of Christ.

How special we are to be in this life, knowing God and knowing His infinite love. Doesn’t it make you want to know Him better? Spend time this week with God…sit in silence and just reflect on God’s creation. Open up His Word to read His messages to You. If you still can’t hear Him…try inserting your name in each of the scriptures. “See what love the Father has bestowed on _____ that he/she may be called a child of God. Yet, so You are….”

1 John 3:1 See what love the Father has bestowed on us that we may be called the children of God. Yet, so we are. The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know well the plans I have in mind for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare, not for woe!

Romans 5:8 But God proves his love for us in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us.