In Catholic forums, a lot of attention is being paid these days to the domestic church with so many of us feeling isolated in our homes for work, school and even worship during the pandemic. So, you might ask yourself “what exactly is the domestic church?” The term harkens back to the early days of Christianity when liturgical celebrations took place in the home because no official space for worship was available, especially after the early followers of Christ were expelled from the synagogues. Later, in his 1994 Letter to Families, St. John Paul II revisited the concept when he described the domestic church as “a civilization of love” (No. 13) based on the family’s vocation as the original cell of social life (Catechism of the Catholic Church–CCC 2207) and a communion of persons, a sign and image of the Trinity-Father, Son and Holy Spirit (CCC 2205).
Although this description may sound theological and intimidating, the bottom line is a family becomes a domestic church by virtue of the grace conveyed to a man and a woman as they enter the Sacrament of Marriage. This grace serves as a kind of lifeline, infused by God as the couple starts a new family when they transform their love into a decision to love in good times and bad, in sickness and health, for better or worse, until death. Lest we are tempted to envision the domestic church as a picture-perfect family, reflection on the dichotomies expressed in the vows should jolt us back to reality. Family life can be very messy at times. Since we live in a fallen world, our experience will fall short of the promise; perfection only comes in heaven.
In the meantime, we are called to live out our vocation as best we can while keeping in mind that family is a public vocation. The requirement for witnesses to the marriage vows point to the public and prophetic nature of the vocation of the domestic church. The family is meant to be the place where we learn how to love God and others and bring that love into our community. We are called to witness Christ’s love to the world and what it means to be a Christian family. We should not allow the fairy tale ideal to intimidate us because the real witness is given in our response to the annoyances, disappointments or worse, not in a storybook version of the truth. We authentically witness our vocation when we respond to the inevitable challenges with love, mercy, justice, and forgiveness… not an easy task but one we are called to learn in the domestic church, assisted by God’s grace. Remember, in the messiness of family life, our true witness to our vocation as the domestic church is expressed in how we respond to daily challenges versus presenting a false, idyllic version of family life.
Here is what the Church and Scripture have to say…
Catechism of the Catholic Church – CCC 204 The Christian family constitutes a specific revelation and realization of ecclesial communion, and for this reason it can and should be called a domestic church. It is a community of faith, hope, charity; it assumes singular importance in the Church, as is evident in the New Testament.
Exodus 20:12 Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which the Lord your God gives you.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
